That's how I feel most days. My kids are out of control. Brother is whiny, which I think age has a lot to do with it, but he just is a whiner. Sis is a disrespectful tween most days.
I'm feel kids are what they are because of the parents. When dd was little I thought I knew what I was doing, now I feel like I suck most of the time.
I'm feel like I'm fucking up my kids and what kind of adults are they going to be? I'm ruining them. :(
Can you tell we just had a (not so) great shopping trip?
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Oh sweetie, you are MUCH too hard on yourself ((hug)). You are a great parent, and if you weren't you wouldn't be sitting here agonizing over how to do better.
It's NOT you. M is just at that obnoxious moody hormone-filled age. I tell you I had the greatest mom in the world and I gave her no end of heartache and trouble for a good few years. All of the hard work you've done to give her a strong foundation WILL pay off, you just may not see it for a while. In the meantime all you can do is keep on truckin', doing the best you can. As my friend Nancy commented to me a while back, teenagers (and I'm extrapolating to tweens) are the reason she now understands why some species eat their young.
As for the whining, I pretend I can't hear them when they whine and make them restate things nicely. Doesn't necessarily help, but it makes me feel like at least I'm doing something LOL. If you saw my blog last week you'll know that we're deep in kid-sass here too. It's NORMAL kid behavior. Obnoxious, yes, needs to be taught differently, yes, but it's normal. They all do it. The trick is not to lose your own sanity while you're knee deep in the struggle to turn your kids into respectable human beings.
We've all been there buddy. You are NOT a bad parent, no more than we all are.
Big hugs.
Thank you for talking me down from the edge Robin. I really do appreciate it *huge hugs*
I think we all feel that from time to time (or alot). Sometimes, I feel like I'm just too tired and spent to be a good parent! I totally understand where you're coming from.
However, at the end of the day, the most important thing is that we love our children and they really do love us. :)
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