Well, sometime in the last few days I had a great idea for a post. Something thought provoking and poignant, I'm sure. And today? Damned if I can remember what it was. So I'll just go with a post saying I'm OK.
The kids are OK. Sometimes I worry that they are too OK. Is that possible? I've tried to keep life as much the same as I can for them. We still tease, we still laugh, we still watch our favorite shows on tv.
I worry that I've done too good of a job on that. Neither one of them really talk about him at all. If I bring him up they will smile about a fun memory or say they miss him if I say it first. But they never bring him up first.
I'm going to have them both talk to the school counselor. At least once to make sure they are not having problems that I can't see. I talked to both of their teachers at parent teacher conferences Friday and neither one of them have noticed any problems at school. Both kids are getting A's and B's and have not behavior problems in the class room.
M's teacher told me something she had overheard at the beginning of the year. A friend of M asked her how things were at her house since her dad was gone. M answered "my mom makes it ok". I hope she's right.
2 comments:
Thanks for your recent post. And I am thankful that you are concerned not just about yourself but about your children's reactions to their father's death, too. I don't know if having a child (adult or otherwise) would have made a difference in my behavior in the months after Greg's death, other than I probably would have HAD to cook (which I virtually gave up on, for months and months). It was a sweet, honest reply from your child M, that "my mom makes it ok". Obviously you are doing a LOT of things right. {{HUGS}} to you.
Jessica, I think I've forgotten how to cook and how to grocery shop! I swear I go to the store and just look at the food, kind of like that guy on the old Carl's Jr. commericals.
Thank God my kids aren't picky eaters!
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